Reflections

So many people are asking me about life with two, whether it be friends with one child or friends considering any child. I can't help but love every moment, the good and the bad. I was so nervous at first because Kasper slept ALL THE TIME and I wondered how we would handle it when he was awake more but the transitions are so slight, so delicate, that he just slides into our days without any hassle. Every time I feel like I have figured out the routine, it changes again and I just feel thankful for those few days where it all flowed seamlessly and remind myself that it will just take a day or so to figure out the new schedule. For instance, most days both kids nap in the afternoon so I have a few minutes to myself to relax but yesterday Kasper was up the entire time AnaSofia was down. I was frustrated, not because I didn't have any time to myself but because I couldn't figure it out - is he sick, what's wrong, why won't you SLEEP?! But today when it happened I KNEW he wouldn't sleep for a few hours so instead of trying to force him to sleep for those few hours we made dinner together so it was ready for tonight - he loved watching me shake the sweet potatoes in their marinade above his head, we had a quiet talk in bed just gazing and "huow - ah"ing to each other. I have just put aside the need to have time for me, the worry that if someone drops by the house will be a mess and just relish these few moments with each child because it is slipping by way too fast. I hope the blog will be a reminder to me and to them about all these everyday moments. In their baby books I have a journal I write about milestones and funny moments but it is this everyday life that completely astounds me. I am forced to slow down and remember what a wise woman said in a recent New York Times article "you can clean the house when they move out", but you can't get back the time when they are young. I am so thankful for it all, life feels good. Here is a little snippet of our everyday moment: